She's a gold digger!
I want to start off this article by making a quick mention: I am a feminist, which means I believe in equal rights for both men and women and I’ve also always sought independence whether it is the financial or the emotional kind.
Recently, I’ve noticed that social media is packed with gold digger shaming content. Every day when I browse through my Facebook feed, I eventually come across a prank video where people expose gold diggers.
Now, I want to make it clear that I don’t support relationships cultivated in order to attain anything other than love and respect, but this gold digger craze really revolts me in the sense that it’s always women who are lured in, pranked, exposed and shamed by men.
Even though there are cases of men being in a relationship with women for their wealth or social status, I’ve never seen a male gold digger being exposed on the internet, mainly because women generally don’t denigrate the opposite sex for the amusement of other people.
Another possible reason why male gold diggers are not so popular on the internet is because they are harder to find. If a woman comes up to a man and suggests they should hang out, it’s pretty unlikely that the guy will reject the offer, especially if the woman is good looking, even though he is not interested in a relationship but much rather in a one-night-stand. Following the gold digger logic, would that make these men sex diggers?
If men get away with being with women solely for sex, why are women in the spotlight, having to face public humiliation for being with men solely for money? I think that as long as we, as a society, can accept the fact that a lot of the times, men prioritize sex in a relationship, we can deal with the fact that some women consider that the financial security a man can offer them is a more important criteria in choosing a partner.
In my opinion, this whole gold digger thing, as it is presented to the masses, is just another way of belittling women, so that equality is constantly far away enough for patriarchy to not be endangered.
I, as a female, and more importantly, as an intelligent, not easily manipulated person, refuse to accept the fact that this type of content is still promoted in a society that claims to have evolved and to aim for further evolution.
Grafica: Emma Ionescu