Embrace Your Complexity!
I strongly believe every single human being is more than they let people see. We are complex, a mixture of qualities, defects and contrasting traits that don’t always blend that well together. That’s why most people have the tendency to shrink their extraordinary selves to fit into a grid that either they choose or others choose for them.
Stereotypes are so deeply rooted in our minds that we don’t even realize we are doing it not only by labeling others, but also by spending our lives – especially our adolescence years – trying to find a label for ourselves and actually stick to it.
I think the most obvious and efficient way to express our personality is through the clothes we wear. People understand that and, as a result, they try and develop a fashion style that they think would best suit the label they set for themselves.
That’s why whenever we see somebody dressed in a certain way, we automatically and most of the time, unconsciously, make assumptions about that person’s dominant traits, in association with how they present themselves.
For instance, when we see someone dressed in smart clothes, we assume that he/she is academically-inclined, ambitious and probably successful while when we see somebody wearing a baggy old sweater and loose jeans, we can easily imagine that person is lazy, unorganized and probably tired.
The point of this article is to show that each of us have good days, as well as bad ones, when we might feel more of a specific aspect of our personality that we already established is so complex.
I trust that very complexity is what makes humans unique and fascinating both as individuals and as a species, so why not embrace it?
I chose to accept that I’m more. Thus, I dress in different fashion styles every day, according to how I feel and what side of my personality I want to let others see. This way, people can get different signals regarding how I can most easily be approached every day.
To show that, I asked my amazing friend, Moni, who happens to be a great photographer, to take a few pictures of my outfits daily, for five working days, and this is what the finished product looks like: …………..
Finally, I want to encourage everyone to embrace their complexity and be more!
Foto : Monica Seiceanu